Since turning 50 I have obviously reached a new advertising demographic. I sometimes watch programmes that are aimed at a more mature audience and have noticed that the accompanying adverts are of a lot less cheery nature. Once you pass your half century it’s clear (from an advertiser’s standpoint) that you should be preparing for imminent demise, wetting your pants, and getting a bit more help to rise from your armchair. If I believed all the advertising I would be in a sorry way.
This simply does not correlate with most of the women we meet in our daily life. We are a vibrant, forward thinking and optimistic group of women who are not ready to give up just yet! By taking care of our minds and bodies we are showing that we still have loads more to offer. Combined with the freedom that menopause brings from child rearing, messy periods and the like, menopause and the years around it denote, freedom, wisdom, fun and excitement if only you have the mindset to make it so.
Your mind is an extremely powerful tool. The way you think impacts your actions and behaviour either positively or negatively.
Carol Dweck, a psychologist who has extensively researched mindset, has identified there are two main types, fixed and growth. A person with a fixed mindset believes that their lot is determined and they have to stick with the hand they have been dealt. A much healthier way, particularly in menopause health and wellness is the growth mindset which means you can change the way you think and act. You can change from negative to positive, from unhealthy to healthy. A growth mindset empowers you to seek out new ways to change your world and your experiences.
Ways to change your mindset to a positive one
Surround yourself with the right people. We tend to become an average of the people that we spend the most time with, so it makes sense that if you surround yourself with miserable moaners and energy vampires, you will eventually become one. No one in your whingey group want or needs to hear your positive outlook (unless of course they want to change themselves). Instead choose your friends and associates wisely. Stick with positive people who act in the way you want to act, feel how you want to feel and think in the way you find attractive and engaging. Did you know you can find all the right support and positive people in our Facebook group? Feel free to join us here
Change the language you use. Be mindful of the words you use in your daily life and switch the negative words and statements for positive.
Decide the mindset you need and work out the actions you need to take to change it. For example, if you want to be fit and healthy, you need to have the mindset ‘ I love nourishing my body with good food and exercising.’ Think and act as if you are already achieving a certain result which will fool your brain and your body will follow. If you need a bit of help, think how a role model would act and follow accordingly.
Be thankful. Reflect daily on the good things in your life. You don’t have to wait until Thanksgiving Day (this year on the 22nd November) to show gratitude. Regularly practicing gratitude will give you a much more positive outlook on life. It doesn’t always have to be the big things. Being grateful for small things will have just as good an effect.
As Henry Ford famously said “If you think you can do a thing or think you can’t – You’re right.” So keep a check on your mindset and upgrade if necessary