Countdown to a naturally stress free Christmas

Naturally stress free Christmas

Christmas can be stressful and even more so if you are menopausal or perimenopausal. Try these steps for a naturally stress free Christmas

1. Planning: Planning is key to reducing stress at Christmas (and any other time of year) and if you suffer from a touch of brain fog you can use some help.  It’s time for some lists. Make a list of all the things you need to do, the people you need to contact, shopping you have to buy. Once you have everything out of your head and on paper, you have made space for actually getting some of the items ticked off rather than worrying about them. Start early and keep your lists updated. You will probably need to add things as you think of them. Remember to cross things off as they are done.

2. Delegate: Christmas is a fun time for everyone and you are no exception. It’s a great time to remind your family you are a team and all need to pull together. Allocate the tasks fairly and make sure everyone knows it’s their responsibility to complete them. Even the young or old can help out in some way.

3. Build in some ‘me’ time: To stay chilled and stress free over the Christmas period you need to build in some time for self care, whether it’s treating yourself to a massage, getting your nails or hair done or just relaxing in a hot bubbly bath.

4.  Relax: Take time to relax with friends or make yourself a cup of tea and read a good book.

5. Keep your eating healthy: Tempting though it is to stuff your face with chocolate and cakes which are more freely available at Christmas, try to resist. Keep your diet as organic as possible and above all avoid highly processed foods.

6.  Pace yourself: There’s always lots going on at Christmas. Remember you don’t have to attend every single event you’ve been invited to. Be selective and really enjoy the ones you go to. Send your apologies but don’t feel guilty about the ones you miss.

7. Manage your mindset: Make a decision early on not to get stressed and overwhelmed by Christmas. If you have a positive mindset and are determined to enjoy yourself then you stand a much better chance than if you worry about things going wrong, the turkey being raw in the middle and relatives being bored or fighting.

8. Set a Christmas affirmation. Peace on earth and goodwill to all men is a great phrase to repeat daily to remind yourself of the aims of the season.

9. 5 minutes of meditation: Make every effort to fit in five minutes of meditation every day. It will calm your mind and centre you for the rest of the day.

10. Take a hike: With all the festivities taking up your time it is easy to let exercise habits lapse. Try exercising which is a great de-stresser as it gets you out of the way and helps produce endorphins to make you feel great. Just fitting in a short walk 3-4 times a week will help.

11. Go easy on the Christmas cheer: In addition to the usual hangovers and bad moods following a night of excess, alcohol exacerbates hot flushes. Stay cool by moderating your intake. Just in case you overdo it try these ways to naturally beat your hangover

12. Enjoy It!  

How to upgrade your menopause mindset

Mindset is everything in menopause. We talk about ways to change yours

Since turning 50 I have obviously reached a new advertising demographic. I sometimes watch programmes that are aimed at a more mature audience and have noticed that the accompanying adverts are of a lot less cheery nature. Once you pass your half century it’s clear (from an advertiser’s standpoint) that you should be preparing for imminent demise, wetting your pants, and getting a bit more help to rise from your armchair. If I believed all the advertising I would be in a sorry way.

This simply does not correlate with most of the women we meet in our daily life. We are a vibrant, forward thinking and optimistic group of women who are not ready to give up just yet! By taking care of our minds and bodies we are showing that we still have loads more to offer. Combined with the freedom that menopause brings from child rearing, messy periods and the like, menopause and the years around it denote, freedom, wisdom, fun and excitement if only you have the mindset to make it so.

Your mind is an extremely powerful tool. The way you think impacts your actions and behaviour either positively or negatively.

Carol Dweck, a psychologist who has extensively researched mindset, has identified there are two main types, fixed and growth. A person with a fixed mindset believes that their lot is determined and they have to stick with the hand they have been dealt. A much healthier way, particularly in menopause health and wellness is the growth mindset which means you can change the way you think and act. You can change from negative to positive, from unhealthy to healthy. A growth mindset empowers you to seek out new ways to change your world and your experiences.

Ways to change your mindset to a positive one

Surround yourself with the right people. We tend to become an average of the people that we spend the most time with, so it makes sense that if you surround yourself with miserable moaners and energy vampires, you will eventually become one. No one in your whingey group want or needs to hear your positive outlook (unless of course they want to change themselves). Instead choose your friends and associates wisely. Stick with positive people who act in the way you want to act, feel how you want to feel and think in the way you find attractive and engaging. Did you know you can find all the right support and positive people in our Facebook group? Feel free to join us here

Change the language you use. Be mindful of the words you use in your daily life and switch the negative words and statements for positive.

Decide the mindset you need and work out the actions you need to take to change it. For example, if you want to be fit and healthy, you need to have the mindset ‘ I love nourishing my body with good food and exercising.’  Think and act as if you are already achieving a certain result which will  fool your brain and your body will follow. If you need a bit of help, think how a role model would act and follow accordingly.

Be thankful. Reflect daily on the good things in your life. You don’t have to wait until Thanksgiving Day (this year on the 22nd November) to show gratitude. Regularly practicing gratitude will give you a much more positive outlook on life. It doesn’t always have to be the big things. Being grateful for small things will have just as good an effect.

As Henry Ford famously said “If you think you can do a thing or think you can’t – You’re right.” So keep a check on your mindset and upgrade if necessary

6 New Year’s resolutions all menopausal women need to make

Your behaviours make all the difference to your experience of menopause. Try these 6 new years resolutions for a healthy happy and stress free menopause.

It’s a brand new year and lots of us resolve to make a fresh start by deciding on a whole variety of New Year’s resolutions to change our lives and carry us through the next year.  Rather than thinking of these as resolutions (which often feel temporary), consider them as healthy habits to develop for a stress free, healthy menopause.

Have a positive attitude.

Be aware of the number of times you say anything negative during the day. You may be surprised how many there are. Try to catch yourself and turn those negatives into positives. Having a positive attitude will make not only your day feel brighter but will impact on your whole life.

Improve your eating habits.

Drastically reducing the amount of processed food you eat will reduce additives and other nasties from your diet. If you currently live out of the ready meal section of the supermarket, try to gradually increase the number of home cooked meals you eat. They don’t have to be complicated. Where possible eat organic foods and ensure you include lots of fresh vegetables.

Make time for yourself.

Recharge your batteries regularly. Making 5-10 minutes each day for meditation is a great practice and will quiet your mind and reduce stress.

Balance your hormones

Avoid synthetic HRT with all its associated dangers. Instead apply a natural progesterone cream, the mother hormone, which will get your body producing the amounts of other hormones it requires and protect you from osteoporosis into the bargain. We have a great supplier of natural progesterone  and if you’d like to know more please do contact us at info@menopausematters.guru

Dress to impress

Make yourself feel fabulous by having a look through your wardrobe and weeding out anything which doesn’t fit or makes you feel dowdy. Lot of ladies refer to menopause as the change and for you it is definitely change for the better.

Exercise 

Develop a healthy exercise habit. It doesn’t need to be strenuous or excessive. Simply increasing the amount of walking you do by taking the stairs or parking you car further away. These will build exercise into your day and you will hardly notice it.  You will really notice the benefits of exercise if you can fit in in 3-4 times a week for about 30 minutes. Try different ways of exercising until you find one you love, this will encourage you to continue.

 

There are lots more things you can do for a healthy, stress free menopause, but start small and keep at it. You’ll notice the difference in no time.

What are your New Year’s resolutions for a happy healthy year?