International Women’s Day 2019 campaign theme:
#BalanceforBetter

Talking about menopause and perimenopause on international women's day

Celebrate! Tomorrow, March 8th, is International Women’s Day and although this is a great theme for all ages and sexes, it is particularly important for peri/post/menopausal women. The lows of menopause are highlighted much more than the benefits, but there are definitely highs, even more so for the postmenopausal period ( talking of periods, saying good-bye to those is a huge bonus… ‘Hello white jeans!’

The number one secret to a healthy happy menopause is hormonal balance!’  We have stressed that many times in our newsletters to you.

But, that taken care of, the next most important thing is to embrace the fabulous opportunities that menopause brings.

It’s Freedom, Baby!  Freedom from debts to children, husbands, lovers, or the species. You can use your creativity, energy and power to plan your life with you as Numero Uno!

It’s time to re-think how you feel about yourself. Don’t assume because ‘you’re a woman of a certain age’ you have to conform to the norm. If you want to grow your hair long, wear shocking pink and get a tattoo, do it! Go through your wardrobe, and apart from discarding anything you haven’t worn for a year, or anything that makes you look like everyone’s favourite maiden aunt, ask yourself if you love it? If not, it’s off to the charity shop!

Now is the time to take up new hobbies; learn a language, do a Cordon Bleu cookery course, take up sky diving! The opportunities are endless, and it’s all about you and what you want and haven’t been able to do before.

And we’d love to hear from you! Let us know how you’re doing, what challenges you are tackling, and any triumphs you’ve had.

As the wonderful Dr Christiane Northrup says  “The good news is that the menopausal transition is an exciting developmental stage that changes you at the core level. It is designed to heal all the unhealed parts of you. That IS the wisdom of menopause.”

How to upgrade your menopause mindset

Mindset is everything in menopause. We talk about ways to change yours

Since turning 50 I have obviously reached a new advertising demographic. I sometimes watch programmes that are aimed at a more mature audience and have noticed that the accompanying adverts are of a lot less cheery nature. Once you pass your half century it’s clear (from an advertiser’s standpoint) that you should be preparing for imminent demise, wetting your pants, and getting a bit more help to rise from your armchair. If I believed all the advertising I would be in a sorry way.

This simply does not correlate with most of the women we meet in our daily life. We are a vibrant, forward thinking and optimistic group of women who are not ready to give up just yet! By taking care of our minds and bodies we are showing that we still have loads more to offer. Combined with the freedom that menopause brings from child rearing, messy periods and the like, menopause and the years around it denote, freedom, wisdom, fun and excitement if only you have the mindset to make it so.

Your mind is an extremely powerful tool. The way you think impacts your actions and behaviour either positively or negatively.

Carol Dweck, a psychologist who has extensively researched mindset, has identified there are two main types, fixed and growth. A person with a fixed mindset believes that their lot is determined and they have to stick with the hand they have been dealt. A much healthier way, particularly in menopause health and wellness is the growth mindset which means you can change the way you think and act. You can change from negative to positive, from unhealthy to healthy. A growth mindset empowers you to seek out new ways to change your world and your experiences.

Ways to change your mindset to a positive one

Surround yourself with the right people. We tend to become an average of the people that we spend the most time with, so it makes sense that if you surround yourself with miserable moaners and energy vampires, you will eventually become one. No one in your whingey group want or needs to hear your positive outlook (unless of course they want to change themselves). Instead choose your friends and associates wisely. Stick with positive people who act in the way you want to act, feel how you want to feel and think in the way you find attractive and engaging. Did you know you can find all the right support and positive people in our Facebook group? Feel free to join us here

Change the language you use. Be mindful of the words you use in your daily life and switch the negative words and statements for positive.

Decide the mindset you need and work out the actions you need to take to change it. For example, if you want to be fit and healthy, you need to have the mindset ‘ I love nourishing my body with good food and exercising.’  Think and act as if you are already achieving a certain result which will  fool your brain and your body will follow. If you need a bit of help, think how a role model would act and follow accordingly.

Be thankful. Reflect daily on the good things in your life. You don’t have to wait until Thanksgiving Day (this year on the 22nd November) to show gratitude. Regularly practicing gratitude will give you a much more positive outlook on life. It doesn’t always have to be the big things. Being grateful for small things will have just as good an effect.

As Henry Ford famously said “If you think you can do a thing or think you can’t – You’re right.” So keep a check on your mindset and upgrade if necessary