Friends in need…

Why friendships are important during menopause

Friends can be a really important lifeline for us during the menopause, and we need to be careful to nurture them, especially if family and workmates don’t understand what’s happening to us. 

How does the menopause affect your friendships?  There can be several reasons for this.

Mood Swings

One minute we can be absolutely fine. The next minute we’re really irritable or angry, and it can be difficult for our friends to understand why we’re having such severe mood swings.

Social Anxiety

You get to the stage where  you don’t want to be in a big group of people. Your worst nightmare would be going into a pub with loud music and lots of people talking.  

Loss of Confidence

This can be due to body image. Bodies change during menopause due to hormone imbalances, and if our friends are all nice and slim and you’ve put on a few pounds, you can feel really awkward.

Poor Sleep

If you’ve slept badly, what with night sweats and frequent trips to the loo, the last thing you want is to socialise… all you really want to do is just cuddle up in front of the the TV and have an early night!

Toxic or Unsupportive Friends

Friends who spend the whole time talking about themselves, and are unaware about what you’re going through and totally unsupportive, can make you think “Why am I here? I would be a lot happier on my own than being in this person’s company.”  You may also have other friends going through the menopause, and not suffering to the same extent, so they may be unsympathetic. Try to make them understand that you’re having a little bit of a rougher time and that all you want is their support, and maybe a bit of help to get you through a particularly difficult time.

Why not join our FB group, Your Natural Menopausewhere our members share their trials and triumphs, and we’re always on hand to advise, encourage and help!